Within face to face counselling, I will explore with you whatever distress, difficulty or dissatisfaction you might be experiencing. My aim will be to understand things from your point of view, from your perspective and then help you to gain more clarity, make changes, exercise your choices, reduce confusion or perhaps accept a situation or a consequence. I won’t give you advice but I will help you feel clearer and less stuck. Everybody is welcome equally, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, class or culture.
Bottled up anger, anxiety, embarrassment or grief can feel quite overwhelming and the opportunity to express these feelings without being rushed, judge or denied, can be effective and healing. We may be able to look at things which you have not previously faced or accepted.
There are many different ‘models’ or ‘theories’ of counselling & psychotherapy, each with its own way of working and its own merits but all with a goal of assisting you to evaluate, accept or change aspects of yourself or your life. Cognitive behaviour Therapy encourages you to evaluate your thought and behaviour patterns with a view to making specific changes, Psychodynamic therapy will consider the influences of your childhood upon your present and Humanistic therapies will focus on the here and now and how you are feeling. My training integrated all these therapies (and a few more) however, within a caring and respectful relationship, I will help you to feel better – which after all is why you are considering coming for counselling.
Group therapy brings different advantages to 1-1 counselling. It enables people to realise they are not alone with a problem and that others are experiencing similar feelings. It can provide an opportunity for a wide variety of responses and feedback and reduce feelings of isolation. It can provide a forum for listening, being listened to and for trying out new attitudes and approaches.
One’s habitual ways of relating are often reproduced in the group setting. This gives the group the opportunity to examine and understand the difficulties that arise, and this in turn allows new, more productive, patters of relating to emerge and be established.
Groups are facilitated by myself or another qualified therapist and involve an element of psycho-education. They usually run on a Saturday or one night a week (for a six week period and are ‘closed’ to new members – new people are placed on a waiting list). Most popular are addiction groups, couples groups and abuse-survivor groups. Various different groups are running at any one time so please contact me to discuss your needs.
The next workshop scheduled is a one day event for couples wishing to improve their relationships. Topics include handling difference and dissatisfaction, shared values and goals, negotiating strategies, reducing tension, developing trust and affection, understanding dependence and inter-dependence, what to do when things go wrong and getting past anger and ‘baggage’.
For dates and further information, please contact me.
This service is for couples who’s relationships are reaching the point where legal separation or divorce are being considered. It does not aim for any specific outcome however both reconciliation and separation are equally likely eventualities.
Sometimes Family counselling is also effective at this stage of a relationship breakdown. The process enables Couples and Families to be heard respectfully regarding their needs and feelings, at a time when emotions can be quite over-powering.
Confidentiality is vital for all forms of counselling – even more so for online. Please contact me directly if you wish to discuss online therapy.
Telephone counselling is also available if you are unable or prefer not to travel. It is confidential, convenient and as equally effective as face to face therapy. Clients have used telephone counselling in order to cope with phobias, bereavement, abuse, anxiety, depression, anger, stress, health related and many other issues.
Psychotherapy is a means of helping to overcome issues related to stress, drug abuse, emotional problems, mental health disorders, relationship problems and troubling habits. Psychotherapy involves talking with a qualified psychotherapist either on a one-to-one basis, in a group or with a partner. By undergoing psychotherapy you can learn about your condition, talk about the feelings you have for yourself and those close to you, address the problems you’re facing, take control of your life and develop coping mechanisms to deal with challenging situations.
If you have decided to have counselling or psychotherapy, it’s important to find a psychotherapist who you feel comfortable with. A psychotherapist will always treat sessions as confidential, and you can reveal anything without feeling embarrassed, judged or inhibited.
If you’re seeking psychotherapy in Guildford, I have my own practice, Val’s Counselling, which offers psychotherapy to clients in Ash, Guildford, Aldershot, Farnham, Camberley, Frimley and beyond. Whether you’re suffering from depression, anxiety, relationship difficulties, an eating disorder or drug misuse, I can help you to learn about your problems and find solutions to deal with them.
Depression can be a disabling condition. It can be hard to live with and hard to treat, yet anyone can suffer from its effects at any time in their life. Confiding in a counsellor can help bring you comfort and help you to learn how to deal with your problems, how to rationalise your thoughts, and how to help yourself.
Depression is experienced differently by individuals. In the event you feel like you’re suffering from the early symptoms of depression or you’ve reached the stage where you’re struggling severely with depression, an experienced and professional therapist can provide an ear and a supportive arm to help alleviate the problems you are facing.
Overcoming depression is not necessarily quick or easy, but it’s not impossible. It will be an important factor in your recovery that you find the right therapist or the right treatment for you. I provide therapy for those coping with depression. With me, you won’t be told what to do and you won’t be told how to act. What you’ll find is a safe, non-judgemental environment in which to talk.
Please contact me on 01252 336114. I am available to see clients in Ash, Guildford, Aldershot, Farnham, Camberley, Frimley and further a field.
Every relationship will have its difficulties, but sometimes when you’re in that relationship it can be hard to talk things through or find a way to a resolution. That’s when the assistance of a relationship counsellor can make a difference. Relationship counselling can be helpful in assisting an individual or a couple who are experiencing relationship difficulties. A situation can often reach the stage where it is useful for an outsider to assist and facilitate towards finding a resolution.
I offer relationship counselling to clients in Frimley, Ash, Guildford, Aldershot, Farnham and across Surrey. Anyone who is stuck, unhappy or hurting, or just feeling a little lost in their relationship are free to consult me on 01252 336114. You’ll be listened to and supported in an environment that is both confidential and non-judgemental, where you can feel secure in sharing your problems.
Sexual difficulties are more often psychological than physical. If you are experiencing any such difficulties it can help to consult a sex therapist. Psycho-sexual therapy is a means of examining the core problem without embarrassment and can often help in finding solutions to overcome these psychological problems. An outsider’s objective perspective can help improve physical intimacy, reinvigorate your sex life and enhance generally the quality of your life and mental health.
I offer counselling and psychotherapy to clients in Ash, Guildford, Aldershot, Farnham and across Surrey, helping you to resolve your sexual difficulties in an environment that is safe, confidential and non-judgemental.
Contact me for an initial consultation call on 01252 336114 or visit the website here.
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MIND, the mental health charity, describe counselling as ‘providing a regular time and space for people to talk about their troubles and explore difficult feelings in an environment that is dependable, free from intrusion and confidential. A counsellor should respect your viewpoint while helping you to deal with specific problems, cope with crises, improve your relationships, or develop better ways of living.
Despite the name, counsellors don’t usually offer advice. Instead, they help you to gain insight into your feelings and behaviour and to change your behaviour, if necessary. They do this by listening to what you have to say and commenting on it from their particular professional perspective.
The word ‘counselling’ covers a broad spectrum, from someone who is highly trained to someone who uses counselling skills (listening, reflecting back what you say, or clarifying) as part of another role, such as nursing. We use the term here to mean a talking therapy delivered by a trained professional.
Sessions usually take place once a week. Making this regular commitment gives you a better chance of finding out why you are having difficulties.
There are many definitions and explanations of counselling and therapy. A further description of counselling can be seen on the website of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP).